We hear it every year, whether we like it or not. No, I’m not talking about “I Want a Hippopotamus for Christmas”. I’m talking tips on how to slow down so that we don’t get caught up and stung by the tentacles of the holiday cray cray. Sometimes we learn from years gone by. Mostly, it catches us off guard like black ice on a sunny winter’s day. We’re strolling along whistling “Last Christmas” and then BAM – splayed out on our butts, cold, lonely and shivering in the fetal position. Okay, okay. Maybe not mostly, eh, but pretty darn close.
Quite a pretty pickle we find ourselves.
So, what’s the solution? Funny you should ask!
Answer: A boomerang.
Stay with me.
I recently had a conversation with a good friend of mine. We were in a discussion on ways that we all could be more aware on a regular basis instead of rushing by, to or through each other in a snowy, white noise storm.
She said, “We need to start giving out the energy that we want other people to absorb.”
In theory, that sounds perfect. Let’s get real. We’re all (myself included) a very selfish group. Even when we mean well, there is a quality of “Me! Me! Me!” somewhere in the mix.
So, my altered tip is this:
Be the energy that YOU want to absorb.
Or in other words, by a kinda sorta famous guy who went by the name Gandhi, (you may have heard of him):
Be the change YOU want to see in the world.
After all, we get back what we put out.
What kind of world do YOU want to live in? What kind of community do YOU want to be proud to be a part of?
The next time you find yourself whizzing through the streets like a frantic, hopped up speed racer, ask yourself this: Would I want this person flying towards me at record speed with no brakes anywhere in sight? Wild guess: not so much.
Pump the brakes. Practice this holiday season and see if it lingers into the New Year.
- Turn around. Take the time to turn around before you fly open a door and have it slam into the face of the innocent person behind you. Spend a few extra seconds holding the door open and see their face light up like a menorah. Turn around in line at the post office. Are you holding two letters while the lady behind you is balancing three boxes? Have a few moments to spare? Let her go ahead of you in line – crazy, I know!
- Look up. Take a cue from Frosty and freeze! Stop and look up at your co-workers’ or kids’ or friends’ instead of continuing to type, text or scroll away while they talk. Besides the fact that it’s totally rude, it will give you a break to catch your breath. (Brownie points for actually turning your whole body towards them. Imagine that!)
- Look in the mirror. Yes, the mirror. Do you look like a hot mess – is there flour in your hair or chocolate on your face? Do you have a scowl grinchier than The Grinch himself? Be self-aware.
So, as you finish your last minute shopping, swing over to the toy aisle (or page) and grab yourself a boomerang. Keep it close by as a reminder to be loving instead of loathing. A kid instead of a creep. A joy to the world instead of a lump of coal to a stocking.
“I’m a true believer in karma. You get what you give, whether it’s good or bad.”
– Sandra Bullock